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She trusted, she loved, she fought and she failed, but there she is in front of you, trying it all over again. Manchmal zeigen wir Ihnen personalisierte Werbung, indem wir anhand Ihrer Aktivitäten auf unseren Seiten und Produkten fundierte Vermutungen über Ihre Interessen anstellen. You cant be comitted while you are willing to be dishonest....

Having been raped or abused, having had just one divorce, etc... If dating is moving towards marriage, and you learn of a sexual history, recognize that you were never pursuing this person so that you could be the best in bed — or the best at anything. Dating a man who is damaged goods But when a wannabe poser says he's damaged goods, he probably means his dad smacked him when he was a child, or his mom didn't understand him, or his last girl friend made him a miserable emo type.

6 Signs You Suffer From ‘Broken Woman’ Syndrome - At that moment- or, to be more precise, after she is done crying with her girlfriends- she makes a decision, a decision that will change her more than her naivety allows her to realize. The young man needs to look inside himself and figure out what is the problem and how to heal himself.

Tagged as: Question - 8 May 2011 9 Answers - Newest, 9 May 2011 A male age 41-50, anonymous writes: So Aunts, I have a question. I have been hearing this statement a lot in the past few years. He had a horrid childhood that has left him impulsive and angry and unable to connect emotionally without fear. Damaged folks may or may not be worth the effort. It's sad, but some folks get like that. It doesn't make them any less human, but it does mean that dating a damaged person means dating someone who is unable or unwilling to return the love and effort you invest in them. It means that, often, getting attached to them hurts far more than being alone. Some are good at faking healthiness in the beginning of a relationship, but only get really messed up after they start getting attached. Many of them need and even deserve help - but helping them can hurt the person trying deeply, and oftentimes just isn't worth it to the person who tried. It's life, it sucks, and it'll continue as long as people make bad decisions. A female reader, , writes 8 May 2011 : Look we all humans! So what if the person is 'damaged', it means that they need more love and affection, because someone one has starve them of it. I you feel for someone and the feelings is return go ahead and see where the road takes you... Just take time to know her, and be yourself. A female reader, anonymous, writes 8 May 2011 : It means that someone has severe emotional or mental issues that make being in an intimate relationship with them difficult, painful and drama-filled. This could be due to mental illness, past trauma, unhappy childhood, anything really. To some degree, everyone has issues that can and do make being in an intimate relationship challenging at times, but there's no denying that some people have worse issues than others, or more severe issues, or a greater number of issues that makes them have difficulty being in healthy and happy intimate relationships. It really depends on the individual. But people who refuse to even acknowledge that they are 'damaged' probably can't be fixed because they won't even admit that they have a problem. Such people often do get into intimate relationships anyway, and go on to cause a lot of suffering and harm to their partners and children in the process and thereby 'damage' others in turn which is very sad. A female reader, , writes 8 May 2011 : It always makes me sad when I hear somebody described as damaged - like a reject - damaged goods I think people who have been through a lot, either as a child or an adult are affected by their trauma but not damaged - with help, patience, understanding and love too they can be happy like everyone else - its all everyone needs really - someone who cares Women described as 'damaged goods' are normally those who sleep around, who are easy meat - its a reputation killer when that gets around... If someone is damaged, of course it can be fixed. A male reader, , writes 8 May 2011 : If someone is 'damaged', people usually refer to them being a lot of work. For example, a lot of posts on here refer to prostitutes as being 'damaged', meaning, they might have a complete aversion to sex or a disliking to particular things or they might weep a lot because of what they've been put through, basically, a damaged person has a lot of problems that threaten to instantly jeopardize a relationship with them. Look, purely in my opinion, no one is really damaged. Someone who labels someone else as 'damaged' may just be too unwilling to actually get to know that person or understand them. That's not always the case, it's just that from my experience, most people who are labeled as damaged, just need someone to actually listen and try to at least understand them, sometimes they are not as 'damaged' as others make them out to be.

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You could be lied to and used like a whore the whole way through and then rejected. However most of them can at times control those emotions kind of. At that moment- or, to be more precise, after she is done crying with her girlfriends- she makes a decision, a decision that will change her more than her naivety allows her to realize. I for one would not change it for the world. Why is this so hard to understand? Also to even care about what other people label you as is a major concern. What I don't understand is this: with the high rate of divorce in the world today, newlyweds still don't continue to use birth control until they find out if the relationship will last. So what if the person is 'damaged', it means that they need more love and affection, because someone one has starve them of it.